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DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend feels stuck at her current job.

She has an impressive résumé, and I know she’s overqualified for the job she has now. Anyone would hire someone like her.

She doesn’t want to be without income, but I can see how miserable this current job is making her.

I don’t know how to get her to take a leap of faith. How do I encourage her to start the journey of at least searching for a job?

Leap of Faith

DEAR LEAP OF FAITH: While your girlfriend may be overqualified for her job, it sounds like she needs some confidence-boosting in order to push forward to what’s next.

Start by encouraging her to update her résumé. Ask her to talk through it with you so that she says out loud what her qualifications are, what she has learned and where she could be headed. Suggest that she go on LinkedIn and look for jobs in her area of interest.

She can go on virtual job interviews just to get a sense of what’s out there. She can consider it a fun activity to talk to potential employers about what they do and how she might fit in. If she starts the conversations purely as an exploration, the performance pressure will be off.

Encourage her to take this step. It can help build her confidence for making a move.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a number of health challenges that I have been dealing with for a few years. Nobody in my life really knows about them.

I take my medication, I stay in touch with my doctors, but in the past year I haven’t been exercising or doing the physical maintenance work that I promised to do. I’m doing OK, but I know I could be doing better.